It’s officially the Holiday season
And with that comes this crazy sense of intensity
Which, in my case is exponentially exacerbated by the cold hard fact that my husband is travelling for
Two. Looooong. Weeks.
Yes, this is the woman who runs the Ditch Stress & Be Merry, Mom webinar.
And yes, I’ve followed my own advice.
I’ve simplified and streamlined.
I’ve lessened my Holiday to do’s
Said no to volunteer commitments at the school
Said no to the one extra Holiday Party I felt would take me over the edge
Said yes to more e-cards
Said yes to 100% on-line shopping
But there is still a lot to do!
The kids’ schedules aren’t full anymore…
They’re bursting at the seams:
A school fair
Dance rehearsals and shows
And this also happens to be the busiest (and most exciting!) time at work
See, I am about to launch a free e-course for busy Moms that I’ve been dreaming up for a long long time now.
The New Year is the perfect time to introduce this to my beautiful community of Mamas
But launch time also happens to take place at a time when the other balls I juggle are radioactive!
And then there’s always and forever more
The house, the food, the laundry, the yard
They’re still around alright
But there, present and calling for attention
Every. Single. Day.
And all of this is supposed to be a fun, merry time.
Managing it alone just feels really heavy.
There hasn’t been much joy
And towards the end of the husbandless weeks
Hot head moments abound…
So while I had intended to begin talking about managing Mom overwhelm (which is what my upcoming e-course is about)
I think it may be more useful to close on my hot head series, by sharing one of the best hot head management tricks that I learned from an Anger Management parenting course I took a while back…
It’s worked a charm for me over the last few days…
When you feel that hot head moment coming on, think: A.B.C.
A is for Awareness
Become aware of yourSELF.
Ask yourself: what is happening to your body? what is happening to your mind? your self talk? your not-so-self-talk?
And if it isn’t pretty…
B IS FOR BACKING OFF
Go to your bedroom, a bathroom.
(And if you can’t leave physically, see if you can leave the space mentally – try putting on earphones (ear plugs?) and plugging into a pre-prepared relaxation audio, for instance)
Breath some more.
Practice one of my 6 simple strategies to find calm in that crazy hot head moment.
And once you are feeling safe, sane and sound (and this can take a while – experts say up to 20 minutes!)…
c is for connect
Connect with the humans around you from a place of calm.
Yes, sadly I’ve been spending a lot of time breathing in my bathroom this past week.
The kids get it
They think I’m a bit crazy
But they get it
And they love me all the same.
Happy A.B.C’ing Mama!